I chuckled as I watched yet another ”stuff ______ people say video.” These often funny parodies about specific groups of people are the current Youtube craze and the videos usually show up in FB and twitter timelines. This particular video was about single women and the stuff they say. Hilarious video, but one of the statements that was the mockery of the creators – I am happily single – did not sound like an oxymoron to me. The video aside, in our relationship driven society to some people it sounds absurd. I have heard or read the statement many times. I have also said it; yet I don’t think I have given it much thought. Until now.
God has really blessed me with awesome friends from different walks of life. I have friends who are single, married, in long term relationships, in new budding relationships etc. They are all fabulous in their own right. They are mothers, intellectuals, fashionistas, writers, lawyers, business owners, and doctors. Most all of them are ambitious go-getters. Like many human beings, most admit to wanting love. It’s a human want (or need depending on how you look at it), we all want to love and to be love for who we are – flaws and all.
But until we all get the love that we want, is it possible to claim happiness in our current state? Can we be happily single? Can a single woman find her happy so to speak? I admit some people probably use the statement defensively, but I also know that some use it truthfully. Our marital/relationship status shouldn’t define our happiness. While there are wonderful things about finding love, we may as well enjoy the journey until we get there.
Cheers,
Nika
